An Odd Request

Last year, my husband Kenn and I visited his uncle in Orlando, Florida. His Uncle Johnny told us a story about a pastor at the megachurch he attends. As a Christian romance writer, I wanted to know more. We asked Uncle Johnny if he would arrange a meeting for Kenn and me to talk with Pastor Ben Peterson at Hart Fellowship. We met with him in his office for twenty minutes early on a Friday morning. Much of that conversation follows.

Me: We were told you sent a letter proposing marriage to a woman you know in Tennessee. As a Christian writer, I think there may be a great story here for a novel because people rarely propose by mail. Would you share the details with us?

“Sure. My first wife, Annie, passed away two years ago. I’m ready to get married again but find dating tiresome.” He crossed his arms. “After a few months of prayer, I felt God gave me a definite answer of who He’d selected to be my bride. Because I knew this, there was no reason to waste time dating before I popped the question.”

Me: But why a letter and not a personal visit?

“I wanted to make sure she was interested before I traveled. She lives near Chattanooga—600 miles away. Plus, I’d rather she messages me to tell me no than tell me to my face.”

Me: But you must be close friends. You expected her to say yes. Right?

“Of course. It’s just that we haven’t seen each other in twelve years.”

Kenn: Twelve years? But you’ve stayed in contact and talk often?

He shook his head. “Just an occasional comment on social media.”

Me: Really? Have you heard from her since you made her an offer of marriage?

“I sent the letter ten days ago, but she hasn’t given me an answer.”

Me: Ten days? And you still expect her to respond?

“If she prays about this like I have, and like I asked her to, I believe God will show her His plan, and she’ll agree to marry me.”

Kenn: Are you sure she received your letter?

“Yes. I sent her a message last night on social media and asked if she got it. She said she’d pray and get back to me.”

Me: That sounds promising.

Pastor Peterson pulled out his phone. “I haven’t checked my message app since last night. Let me see if she’s responded further.” He grimaced. “What does this mean? Check ready to mail? I didn’t ask for money.” He looked up at us and spoke with frustration in his voice. “We need to finish up now. I need to respond to her message.”

Me: Pastor, this could make an amazing storyline if she responds favorably. But if she doesn’t?

“I’m sure it sounds odd.” He glanced toward his closed office door and rubbed the back of his neck. “Maybe I should have called her instead.”

Kenn: Or visited her in person.

He nodded, stood, and walked to his door. “I planned to do that when she agreed to marry me.” He released a heavy sigh and softened his tone. “If she agrees to marry me.”

Me: Thank you for your time, Pastor Peterson. I hope this works out well for you.

Kenn: We’ll be praying.

On our way to the parking lot, Kenn asked, “What would you think if you were single and received his letter after twelve years?”

I shook my head and shrugged. “That he’s crazy? I doubt there’s a story here. If I were her, I’d throw the letter away. Such An Odd Request.”

You’ll find the rest of Pastor Peterson’s story, in my newest release, An Odd Request. Coming soon!

Full disclosure: This blog post is a work of fiction. The only truth found within is that we were in Florida last year, and Kenn has an Uncle Johnny who lives there.


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Align my Heart in 2022

For the past two years, I’ve selected a word and Bible verse to focus on for the new year. My reason for doing this is to grow deeper with the Lord and align my heart with His.

For 2021, my word was joy, and my verses were 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18.

Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances;
for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus
(NIV).

Last year proved difficult with our move to Tennessee and buying a home. But in giving thanks in all circumstances, I wrote out something each day for which I was grateful. Gratitude for God’s blessings in my life brought an extra dose of joy to my heart.

For 2022, I’ve selected the word awareness. I desire to be aware of God’s presence in a greater way. I’ve selected Habakkuk 2:14 to remind me of my focus word. 

For as the waters fill the sea, the earth will be filled
with an awareness of the glory of the Lord
(NLT). 

In following the Lord for many years, I’ve grown in my faith and trust His word to be true. But I also yearn to draw closer and develop a more intimate relationship with Him. I desire more of those special moments where I sense His nearness.

By faith, I believe the Holy Spirit watches over and guides me. But I need to better develop my spiritual listening skills and be sensitive to hearing the Lord when He speaks and follow His leading.

Have you experienced those moments with God when you know without a doubt that you’ve communicated with Him in a real and personal way? I’ve felt this closeness over the years, but I long for these moments to be a regular occurrence—just the Lord and me.

I hope to walk away from my prayer time and sense a greater connection to God. To experience His fullness and all He has for me.

I believe God desires this kind of relationship and plan to take the following four steps to draw closer to Him.

  • Continue to read His Word and write out verses that stand out to me but allow myself more time to meditate upon these verses and write them on my heart.

  • Focus on Bible studies and be more purposeful when I study. Ask the Lord what He wants to show me.

  • To not only pray, but to get alone with God and listen for Him to speak before I jump up and carry on my day.

  • Spend time in personal worship, lifting my voice to the Lord in song.

What would you add to my list to draw closer to God?

My hope for 2022 is to be more aware of the Lord’s presence as I continue to grow deeper with Him and align my heart with His.


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Home For The Holidays

Two weeks ago, we celebrated Thanksgiving with family for the first time in thirteen years. I’m grateful to be home for the holidays and look forward to Christmas. Although we traveled from New Mexico to Tennessee to spend Christmas together most years while we lived away, it’s great to live near our family again.

While in New Mexico, traditions changed. We often traveled for Thanksgiving and toured the Southwest. Over the years, we visited Carlsbad Caverns and White Sands National Park in southern New Mexico; the old western town of Tombstone, Arizona; San Diego, California; and San Antonio, Texas. We made family memories on these trips with our youngest daughter.

Traditions changed in Tennessee while we were gone too. We weren’t sure we could arrange for everyone to gather for dinner this year, but I thank the Lord it worked out. Our oldest daughter often gets together with her in-laws, but they planned to celebrate on Saturday. Our daughter-in-law usually shares the day with her family, but they were out of town. Everything worked well for us except for missing our oldest grandson. He’s in the marching band at Mississippi State and had a game. We enjoyed time with him later that weekend.

Instead of our typical turkey, hubby cooked two delicious chickens in the smoker. We also prepared several traditional sides and pumpkin pie for dessert. I’d made a Waldorf salad but forgot to take it out of the fridge. I ate all of it over the next few days.

Christmas plans for Christmas Eve include our three families attending church together late that afternoon and then meeting in our home for an Italian dinner. And, of course, open gifts around the tree.

Another holiday treat happens this weekend. With living 1200 miles away, we couldn’t invite our youngest grandchildren over to spend the night with Papa and Nana. Our granddaughter, age eleven, and our grandson, age eight, will spend the night with us for the first time. We plan to take them to a drive-through Christmas light display and play games while they are with us.

I’m thankful for many things. Family is near the top of my list, and I’m grateful to be home for the holidays to spend quality time with them. Wishing you and your family a healthy and merry Christmas!

Give thanks to the Lord, for he is good;
his love endures forever.
Psalm 107:1, NIV


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Pre-approved

Have you ever been pre-approved for a loan? With our recent move from New Mexico to Tennessee, we needed a pre-approval letter from our bank to make an offer on a home to buy. The seller wanted to confirm we could get a loan for our offered amount. We provided our bank with financial information and employment history. Afterward, we received an approval letter and purchased our home.

There’s another type of approval I tend to seek. Acceptance from others. Am I alone in this? I hope people will like me and want to get to know me better. I’d like to believe that once they’ve met me, they will approve of me. But I read something this week that reminded me of something I need to focus on more often.

I’m doing a Bible study called, Galatians Accepted & Free, by Jada Edwards. After I watch a video on Study Gateway, I work through the study guide. In Session Three’s Opening Group Activity, Jada asked, “In what ways does knowing you’re pre-approved through Christ bring hope and healing?”

Why do I bother to seek approval from others if I’m already pre-approved through Christ? He’s the one who matters. And if He’s chosen me as His child, why do I exhaust and stress myself trying to gain acceptance from others?  

Even before he made the world, God loved us and chose us in Christ
to be holy and without fault in his eyes.
Ephesians 1:4, NLT 

If we’ve accepted Christ into our lives and believe in our hearts that he died and rose again, he has accepted us because of our faith in him. We don’t need to seek anyone else’s approval. We don’t need more social media likes or to receive pats on our backs for doing something awesome. If God recognizes us as his child, what can beat that? He already thinks we’re awesome!

I need to keep this in mind when I’m tempted to gain someone’s acceptance or when I meet someone for the first time and hope to make a good impression. God already approves of me.

My hope rests on what Christ provided for me on the cross. He gave his life for me and for you so we can live eternally with him. We are now pre-approved before we meet someone new. We no longer need to win their approval too. Their acceptance of us doesn’t matter. Christ proved his love for us when he died. He matters.

Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God?
Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ.
Galatians 1:10, NIV 


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